Are You Looking Forward to Your Wedding More Than Your Marriage?

Why are all women trained from birth to have these dreams of a huge wedding and a get marriage when they become adults? Is it not somewhat unobtainable or even fictional to assume that can actually happen and to train your daughter to look forward to a fairytale life when they grow up? It is this type of theory that parents instill in their daughters at very young ages that causes the overbearing desire for women to turn into bridezillas when they finally do become engaged and begin to plan their weddings.

It can drive your fiance absolutely insane when they put that ring on your finger and you transform your life into wedding central. Why do women do this? It is mostly because they are trained from birth that the day they get married is to be the biggest day of their lives, a time for celebration and to be treated like a queen for the day. It is almost comical how much emphasis society has placed on weddings for the women involved, as if the men getting married are just there to park the cars? Why it is not so important for men to be equally as celebrated as the women when they get married? When you have found someone to spend your life with and to have children with it certainly is something that is wonderful and should be praised. It is when the actual thought of the wedding or the planning of it takes over the actual meaning of what the wedding stands for that becomes an issue. Some couples even break up before the big day simply due to the huge amount of planning and pressure they are feeling regarding the wedding. Everyone must consider "Do you truly want to get married" before they commit to it.

It can be a very common situation that many couples get married or become engaged just because they are comfortable with one another or because their family and friends want them to more than they actually do. They begin to plan a wedding that they are not ready for or they begin to focus more on the actual wedding than they do on their future marriage. A wedding is to be a day when you and the one you intend to spend your life with are united and not a performance for your whole social circle to enjoy. Weddings have become shows or plays now instead of valuing what is really happening with the relationship. Some people actually want the wedding more than the relationship which is never a good thing. Speak with your potential future spouse openly first about what type of wedding you would like and what type of lifestyle you desire in the future before getting married for the wrong reasons. Ensure that you both have common values and emphasize on your love for each other versus the celebration of the wedding. If you find that one party in the engagement is focused more on the wedding than on the future, you have to address those feelings prior to making your commitment to ensure you are both making the right decision.