Get the Man of Your Dreams Down On His Knees: How to Get Him to Commit to Marriage

You've been with a man for a couple of years, you talk about the future a lot and everything seems to be great except he still hasn't popped the question and you are left wondering why. You analyze every aspect of your life together- you both are financially stable, you love each other to death but he never said he wants to marry you. And then you are left clueless on how to get him commit to marriage. Maybe it's time for you to assess yourself and not just your relationship.

One of the most important things in a successful relationship is when you know how to love yourself. Ask yourself this question- would you marry YOU? Are you happy with yourself? If the answer is NO then don't expect others will be. If you are always whining about your job or the extra 5 lbs. you just can't lose, do you think somebody would want to be around that for the rest of their life? Be more positive and love yourself more. Be that kind of person that your partner wants to spend the rest of his life with.

Another mistake that most women make is that they jump the gun and they choose to live in their own fantasy world. Before you start looking at wedding dresses or wedding venues, wait until your man actually pops the question. Don't talk about getting married or how many kids you want. That would just turn him off and do the exact opposite of what you have in mind. Don't ever take him window shopping for engagement rings because that spells desperation. The only time you should talk about getting married is when your boyfriend brings it up.

You also don't need to scare your boyfriend by telling him that once you get married and have a child, you are going to quit your job and just be a stay-at-home mom. Women are notorious for making plans way in advance. We meet a guy we like and we're already picturing ourselves wearing a white gown and imagine how it feels like waking up next to him for the rest of our lives. What else is wrong with telling a guy that you'll be jobless after you get married? He will probably think that you just want to marry him to secure your future and you just want somebody to sponsor the lifestyle that you want.

If you truly want a guy to ask your hand in marriage, you have to show him that you are independent and self-sufficient. Unless the man suggests it and unless there's an absolute need for you to quit your job, please keep your job. You don't want your man to think that you are going to depend on him for the rest of your lives together.

Instead of acting desperate on getting married or playing hopeless in the waiting game, give your man the impression that you are not afraid to remove yourself from a relationship that is going absolutely nowhere. Love is never enough to stay in a relationship. You have the right to know if you are waiting for nothing. Make him feel that you cannot keep investing in a relationship that will end up being stagnant. Remember that you are not someone whom he can string along until a more suitable woman comes along for him to marry. If it's obvious that he is dragging it for as long as he can then tell him that you would like to start seeing other people. Avoid being overly dramatic so he'll know you mean business and that is if you want to be successful on how to get him to commit to marriage. Gather enough courage and don't be afraid to lose him. Better do this now than regret it 5 years later and he still hasn't proposed.